Genesis 18:18-19, Deuteronomy 4 :3-6.
6:6-9. Proverbs 6:6-9. 19:18. 22:6,15, 29.
5. Hard work, Diligence and Excellence.
Parents must drive away their children from laziness. This is especially so, as science has proven that: human beings are naturally lazy, b, there’s a link between poverty and laziness and c, people are always inclined to doing things at their own pace unless compelled to do otherwise.
Diligent parenting, therefore, demands that children must be introduced to working hard: Spending quality time to do what should be done and finishing it in good time and in an excellent manner. Working hard demands that you ensure that every assignment given to the children has a time bar within which to finish it and to finish it properly. Children must be made to know that laziness brings about poverty, lack and their associated ills, including societal disrespect, disdain and diseases and other unforeseen difficulties. They should be taught to work with excellence in mind because that has an additional advantage of giving them elevated recognition, favour and privilege before honourable people.
When children work hard, they make better grades in school, thereby freeing their parents from giving brides.
When children work hard to obtain good grades, they can compete to secure good jobs. Many people claim that there are no jobs out there. This isn’t the whole truth because there are still jobs for high flying youths with character and competence and great scholarship. Let our parenting strive to deepen our children into the culture of hard work with diligence and excellence. Mediocrity makes them educated illiterates, uncompetitive and rooted at one point except Heaven shows them mercy. The Bible says that a man that is diligent in what he does will always excel and be among the honourable class
.( Proverbs 6:6-9 and 22:29.).
6, Respect ANCIENT LANDMARKS.
Landmarks are established truths that survive generations. They can easily be overlooked. But in most cases those who overlook them do so at their disadvantage. As a parent, pay attention to the ANCIENT LANDMARKS in training and developing your children. Also, pass it down to them.
Some contemporary parents are cynical about some of these principles and so denigrate or disregard them.
For instance, the reason that anybody can cook for the family? Do they argue that anybody can be a breadwinner in marriage? Do they believe that marriage can be a mutual agreement to have children only? Do they believe that couples can disengage their marriage if their love for each other fades away?
Some also believe that marriage isn’t between a man and a woman.: That it can be between the same sexes? These are pervasions of ancient landmarks that challenge Bible truths. Whereas anybody can win bread, the duty rests squarely on the MAN: as the Source, the Originator, the Founder and the Nourisher of the family. In fact, the man also owes this responsibility to his wife, who is a Supporter to him.
(Widowhood and single parenting are abnormal cases and can’t be used to change biblical truth).
And whereas we believe that both boys and girls can cook, the woman owns the kitchen in a marriage setting. Parents must take out time to train their girl children before they live their house. They must be taught:
* House- Keeping.
*To be e a Nurse.
*Be a good companion.
* A good friend
* A fellow-labourer.
*Gifted with the Spiritual gifts
* Filled with the Holy Spirit.
*Endowed with the Fruit of the Spirit.
When your children are readied with these abilities, you can throw them into the moon or wilderness and they will survive
Yes, the boy children can be taught to cook, but they must major in being :
*The Priest, Prophet and Pastor of the House.
* Breadwinner of the Family.
* Husband and Father of the Family,
*The face of the family. ( He should be the Defender of his wife and children before the outside world. It’s poor fatherhood for the man to be at home while the wife or children will be quarrelling outside. Or for the wife to face the man’s family members in an argument or about a matter that the man should make a decision on.( A widowed parent must not despair but take courage to cope with it’s challenges. And seek help when necessary. But most importantly, such a parent must integrate herself into the church for both human and God’s favor and spiritual guidance).
Parents should also teach their children to maintain Sexual Purity- pre marriage and within or post marriage. Liberal theology today teaches that children can experiment their sexuality before marriage. The Bible teaches otherwise. Our children should be wedded CHASTE or VIRGIN.
The boy children must be taught to respect the girl children and never beat them no matter the provocation, but to protect them as they would want their own daughters to be treated. They must not bully them into having carnal knowledge of them. They must not intimidate, harass or exploit their weak emotions to advantage because they are stronger.
Our children should be taught to rise early , make their beds, carry out their Quiet Time( before the family altar), do household chores, do toileting and wash ups as well as do the cars, especially on weekends , holidays and as youths at home, waiting for their next move. Many parents have been thoroughly embarrassed by their children who visited family members and friends only to be told that their children used toilets without flushing, or ate without doing the dishes . Or stood aloof while their hosts cooked in the kitchen.?
Children should be taught how to drive as soon as they are of age (18 years in our clime). To obey traffic and other societal laws.
The boys and the girls should have separate rooms. Their television should be in common room or parlour to enable parents: a, monitor what they watch ,b, regulate the time they spend watch television . c, avoid undue movement inside each other’s rooms( incest is a growing phenomenon among siblings these days; don’t be too trustful. Our kids are still flesh and blood.)
Our children should be taught to care and feed domestic animals and pets because the Bible says it’s part of righteousness to do so. They should be taught to respect elders, honor authorities, guide the blind, assist the weak and the infirm and defend friends in their absence. And never to speak ill of any one behind them.
If they must borrow, they must repay anything borrowed even if the lender has forgotten because it’s wickedness not to repay a debt, according to the Scripture.
Parents should teach their children how to give as early as possible because greed and insatiable habits are human nature , moreso, it’s more blessed to give than to receive. Let them know that giving is part of God, who first gave us His Son Jesus as ransom for our sins. (Luke 6:38. Romans 5:8).
They should begin with church offerings and tithes when they receive gifts. They should be made to know that givi g is , indeed, another kind of investment especially before God.
As much as they can understand, children should be taught to invest and to save .
Walking about naked in the house is offensive. Therefore, they must be properly clothed because the Bible says that our nakedness should not be discovered
Children can fight occasionally, but they must be taught not to use weapon or any object of offence. They should be allowed to cry but not too loud to disturb the next house. They can laugh as loud as possible because it’s a sign of rejoicing and good heartedness.
They can also disagree but not angrily or with violence, vulgar language, cursing or threatening or reminder of past errors or offences. Parents must be careful to note these infractions and rebuke them before they fester among their children and form seeds of malice, bitterness and hatred.
They must not raise their voice against their elders in and outside the house. Yet, they must be taught to resist Injustice and oppression. And where they can’t do anything about it, they should walk away from the scene.
They must align with the oppressed and render help if need be. They should choose their friends carefully. They must not eat out freely . They must be home before seven in the evening, except if they are with their parents. The night is blind. Those who travel in the night should be ready to cope with it’s challenges.
Children can’t. In Proverbs 23:23 the Bible says:
“Buy the truth and sell it not, also wisdom and instruction, and understanding” Praise God.
God bless. Kindly share.
(To be concluded next week by His grace).
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